I had the chance to spend time with each child this week separate of the others, and, I tell you, it felt like such a gift. While N was in school, H played beside me while his brother slept and I folded a literal mountain of laundry. He somersaulted over and through my unfolded (and folded) clothes, he twinkled and he tumbled. I just soaked up the sweetness of this middle child. Later that day, N, while her brothers were sleeping, ironed with me. Juxtaposed with the time I just had with H, this was a different kind of moment, but beautiful nonetheless. There was more purpose, more talking, more figuring out, less bouncing and flinging. Less spice more heartiness. And then there was the littlest--his peacefulness is almost startling to me at times. We just stare and stare at each other. So much of it is still just falling in love. Over and over and over.
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I remember days when I cried and shrieked along with my children. I found the early years so demanding. They ARE so demanding. And yet those amazingly profound moments emerge, and love gets you through. Now that mine are 6 and 9, I must say things are easier. I wish I had asked for more help when they were young. That would have helped, I think.
Thanks for the honesty. It sometimes is hard to remember that we are all just mamas with beautiful (but trying) children and tough spots in all of our days. The way you described your time with each of your children is so beautiful. I am really looking forward to a change in our schedule starting next week that will allow me one day each week alone with each child. First on the list with the 4 year old, checking out the dinosaur exhibit at our local children's museum.
I find that alone time with each child to be such a special time, as well as so connecting with their spirits. How beautiful and poignant you captured your relationship with each one here.
You write beautifully. It's so nice to meet you.
I'm glad you had some time with each child. I took the four year old out for a few errands this week and I was amazed at how big she is getting. And how easy she is by herself. It's good for all of us.
I love falling in love with each stage of our lives. Sometimes it just takes stopping and looking at what is truly important and to strip away all of the unnecessary baggage that society gives us. Thank you for sharing and allowing me to remember this.
Oh I think we all know those moments in our day or week. They are not pleasant, but probably make us appreciate the good times so much more. We are human, they are human, and we are all full of emotion.
You put this so beautifully, and I appreciate your openness. I so hate the trying days with my kiddos, but they do still happen, and they are a part of life. I love how you were able to enjoy a few quiet moment, one on one, with your little ones. I am coming to realize that having that time makes a world of difference when the the difficult moments arise.
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